Dear Abby: My rich sisters don’t understand what it’s like to have a job

DEAR ABBY I am the youngest of four sisters I lost one of them Rachel to cancer several years ago Related Articles Dear Abby My husband won t fulfill of my non-negotiables Is our marriage over Dear Abby She just wants to chitchat like she never burned down her house Dear Abby My own kids tell me I need to get over my bad childhood It doesn t work like that Dear Abby After all those dates she says there s no spark Was I played Dear Abby I announced several horrible things on Facebook and now I can t see my grandkids She and I were considered the failures of the family because we had to work hard to take care of our families whereas our other two sisters married into money Rachel didn t take part in several family get-togethers because I m guessing she felt out of place I didn t understand it then but I do now that she s gone because I feel the same way It s aggravating for me now when my sisters come to town They don t understand how hard we have to work to get by They think we and our children who are out working hard too can take time off anytime to get together with them when they come on short notice It s aggravating and I m unsure how to approach this Please help FAILURE IN FLORIDA DEAR FAILURE Your achieving sisters appear to be annoyingly obtuse The next time you receive an invitation on short notice patiently explain to them the difference in your lifestyle and theirs and point out that it precludes you changing your schedule at the drop of a hat Then tell them the amount of time you need to prepare Why you would want to get together with anyone who makes you feel less than puzzles me DEAR ABBY I ve been divorced for years and have since remarried I began dating my current wife a year after the divorce I have four daughters ages through Since the divorce our relationships have been strained because my ex continues to hold them emotionally hostage by feeding her narrative that I m the bad guy for initiating the divorce Because my daughters seem to believe everything their mother tells them it s been tough to reintegrate back into their lives because they don t know what to believe or who to trust My new wife gets frustrated when they don t call me for the big events birthdays Father s Day etc And I feel horrible because her kids make a point of contacting me for every event Should I continue accepting where things are with my daughters and wait for them to realize I m not the monster their mother has painted me as Or should I try having a hard conversation with each of them and take my chances on possibly saying the wrong thing and making things worse DAMNED IF I DO OR DON T Related Articles Asking Eric The Girl Scout dad won t shut up with his inappropriate stories Harriette Cole I discovered out his ex was in town when she presented up for our date Miss Manners How insistent can I be about the spelling of my child s name Dear Abby My husband won t fulfill of my non-negotiables Is our marriage over Asking Eric I invited her in my tiny wedding quota and now she says she might skip it DEAR DAMNED I m not sure what the circumstances were that made you divorce their mother but your daughters are no longer children They are fully into adulthood I do think a conversation with each of them is in order If you approach the subject saying that things don t inevitably work out as planned and had you identified living with their mother to be tolerable you would still be married it might make the rest of what you have to say more palatable If your ex has accused you of infidelity you have a right to defend yourself as long as you don t assassinate their mother s character which is likely what she has done to yours Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA